As I process though good and bad emotions, I’m wanting to lean more into the good. They both come from the very same place, but their end destination is very different. So here goes…I know most people love spring- whether it’s the color of the blossoms kissing the brown branches or the warm air breathing on the skin, sending waves of excitement through every nerve as anticipation of warmer weather is almost over- people love spring. And summer. But I dislike both. The smell, the air, the excitement or the anxiety makes me panic. It’s too much. And it’s like, my brain is already on overload.
Spring 2013 is when I overdosed, and the last time I tried to commit suicide. I had 50 or so pills, a cocktail of sorts, swimming through my system as I failed once again to process grief. It felt like nails scraping the chalkboard of my mind or claws ripping the skin from my bones. It was endless nights, closing my eyes counting the sheep, counting my breaths and then ripping the sheets back, flicking on a light, grabbing my laptop and planning my suicide, night after night for year. It was my brain shutting off in the middle of class and then turning back on mid flashback, my own breath choking me awake violently as visions of unwanted skin to skin, my tear soaked face, unending nausea, panic and hours of questioning, swabbing, and photo taking commenced.
I am not good at unveiling my fears, ending the cycle of disassociation, asking for help and giving people chances. When I overdosed I believed it was my only option. It wasn’t, but it was the only one I recognized and needed at that point. Something inside of me flipped its shit and couldn’t take it anymore. I was aching. Every step and every breath became unbearable. I was miserable with memories that i couldn’t and still can’t really share. I was more than ready and willing to let go of every breath I had left.
Five years out.
It’s been five years. And if you told me that I would be where I am now, let alone alive i would have probably politely nodded and laughed to myself at your stupidity. Some days I still wish I wasn’t here, part of me craving to be reconciled to the God who breathed life inside of me. But then part of me wonders what will I miss out on? What beauty is there left to uncover. There’s a verse that I cling to on my worst days, remembering the promise that’s yet to be fulfilled:
“In the same way, we can see and understand only a little about God now, as if we were peering at his reflection in a poor mirror; but someday we are going to see him in his completeness, face-to-face. Now all that I know is hazy and blurred, but then I will see everything clearly, just as clearly as God sees into my heart right now.” 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
Since 2013, I’ve realized how much of the big picture I have failed to see. In attempting to end my life I wanted to throw it all away. There was nothing worth waiting for. But now I realize I was wrong. And there have been things added to my story that could never bring me the full joy that Jesus brings, but they certainly reflect the joy that he brings. Now we see in part. I long for the day where he makes all things new. I ache for that. But everyday of my still living, breathing, radiant life, I come closer and closer to the reality that God and heaven aren’t as far away as they seem. The process, though, sometimes painful, has become one that I now think may be worth sticking around longer to see how it all turns out because, as of right now, it feels like my story is only beginning.